The really good wholesaler/droppshipping companies are going to remain secret, the fact is no one really wants competition. The reason you get all those spam, and scam lists is because someone got together a bunch of defunct, crappy, and well known companies together on a piece of paper, looked at it for a while, and said, "the only way to make money with this list would be to sell it to suckers"
So what I'm saying is instead of asking here and getting websites that basically just offer the above described service, why don't you contact the companies you wish to sells goods directly, it's not fool proof and I doubt that by next week you have the ideal company but it worked suprisingly well for me when I was running an online retail store. If only I hadn't had to choose between my store and school...
I'm not trying to be a jerk here I think this is legitimate advice, if you're not willing to work at it you won't make money anyway. So get out there and start making phone calls, and writing emails. This feels like doctor phil advise...what everybody was thinking but was too nice to say.
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